Saturday, September 02, 2006

Domestic Violence

Stopping domestic violence is really a cause I strongly believe in: no one should have to experience it and there is help for you. I have suffered both physical & emotional abuse in my life.

Spouse abuse is a very serious form of exploitation that will escalate when left untreated. There is a cycle of violence that often begins with a pattern of verbal denigration and emotional abuse and intensifies until it manifests itself as a form of physical abuse. Verbal abuse is perhaps more sinister than overt physical abuse. Long after the black and blue bruises and broken bones from physical abuse heal, verbal abuse continues to silently erode its victim's self-worth.

The above statement was found here.

I have always thought that emotional abuse has a more devastating affect than physical abuse but now I am undecided because physical abuse sometimes results in death (I have no statistics) & even though an emotionally abused person suffers tremendously, they still at least have life, albeit a sad one, for the most part.

What are your thoughts on this subject?


At 4:18 PM, Anonymous Kailani said...

I've been involved in both types and I think the emotional abuse stays with you longer. For me anyway.

At 4:58 PM, Anonymous eph2810 said...

You know, Chi. I think this is really a hard one to either one is harder than the other.
Of course, some very extreem cases on physical abuse can lead to death; many more to scares for the rest of the life.
But I have seen women in very extreem verbal abuses, have taken their own life because they could not take it any longer and didn't had a way out. And for the surviving one, verbal abuse stays with them for a very long time, and even cripple them. They can't do anything, because their self-esteem is taking away through that abuse.
Like I said, very hard one.

At 7:46 PM, Anonymous Mrs Lifecruiser said...

Since I've not really experienced either of them myself, I pass on this one :-)

At 4:04 AM, Blogger Viamarie said...

I am right now helping a friend in our Catholic community who is victim of physical and verbal abuse from the husband and his family. After many sessions with her, she decided to accept him back when he pleaded again for the 6th time. I couldn't do anything about it anymore but just continue praying for her.

Btw, thanks for your prayers and message of sympathy.

At 6:16 AM, Blogger Wystful1 said...

Well, right now for me, it's kinda a 'touchy subject' so I will refrain from commenting.
VICTIM'S RIGHTS in the justice system lacks in all scenarios here!!!

Sorry to hear about your abuse Chi.

At 7:54 AM, Blogger Melli said...

Well, my first thought is Thank God I don't have THIS problem in my life. But in the issue of emotional abuse vs. physical abuse I don't think you can pick one over the other as being worse. They are both just tragic. And the worst part is that it doesn't just affect the two people involved... it affects the children if there are any, who are often also abused, but even if they aren't, they are feeling helpless to rescue their abused parent, and being forced to live in "fear". It also affects the parents who probably "know" what their abused child "should" do -- but often can't convince them to... and so they must watch their child suffer. It can spread to affect siblings and friends as well. A couple of my sisters were abused - one physically - the other verbally - by their spouses. They are both out of those relationships now but both are scarred and have NO desire for any future relationships. This, of course, has lead them to a life of "independence" that neither of them was properly "prepared" for ... and so they struggle - financially. In that respect the abuse just keeps going! But they are survivors and will continue to be.

Abuse of any kind is a horrible horrible thing and really a very good cause to fight against. But such a difficult one to "fix".

At 9:36 AM, Blogger Pink Chihuahua Princess said...

I've always thought emotional abuse was harder, but then again--you are right. At least those of us that have survived verbal abuse are still living. I guess, maybe now, I think that they are equally as bad, but in different ways.

At 10:11 PM, Blogger maryjane said...

The thing about physical abuse is that it's sometimes more difficult to hide. Emotional abuse is something that goes around with you all the time, no matter what.

I have never been physically abused, but I HAVE experienced emotional abuse (from my parents) and it is truly and forever damaging. I am almost 36 years old and I am still carrying around scars from my childhood.


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