Friday, July 28, 2006

Expressing Deep Concern

I am a little hesitant about sharing this info because it is about my step-son but I am hoping to get some feedback that will be helpful for him.

While attending a funeral yesterday, an uncle said that he felt it would be wise to go visit "D" while there was still time. Apparently his weight has skyrocketed to at least 600 lbs & he is experiencing quite a number of physical problems so we are all deeply concerned for him.

The thing is: he refuses to exercise or eat healthy foods so we really don't know what to do in this situation. Do we just sit back and watch him kill himself? It is just so sad and devastating to us.


At 9:31 AM, Blogger Melli said...

Ohhhh Chi... that is so sad. The thing is is that when you get THAT big that simply walking is HARD work! Just to get from one place to another! And because of that there is a lot of depression involved -- I'm sure "D" sees NO POINT in trying to diet at this point. I really think he should look into the Duodenal Switch surgery... But that's a big step too with many sacrifices. Insurance companies are starting to pay for it now though ... it's certainly an option worth discussing with him.

At 10:57 AM, Blogger Carmen said...

That's a hard one. I think at the very least you might offer to help him. Help him find a doctor that can help him with both the cause of the weight and starting to lose some. But honestly, the person has to want it. Then, he may want it, but not know how to start.

I am absolutely no help, I'm sure. :)

At 1:44 PM, Blogger Wystful1 said...

Well, I guess I'm a little hesitant to even answer. Or give opinions.

This is a situation that looks like no help is wanted, and it's his life.

So if it were anyone in my family I'd just go visit him and perhaps show him love that he probably isn't getting much of these days from anyone!

Tho love can't heal all wounds it may show him a family value that he is not getting much of.

I really don't know Chi.

At 6:43 PM, Blogger Reverberate58 said...

Chi all gave good thoughts on the matter. Being overweight and taking the weight off has to be something that "D" wants to do. I agree with wystful1 just show him love and support. He has to want the help.

At 9:29 PM, Anonymous Fida said...

You can try products he can take that allows him to shed the weight and eat whatever he wants... exercise he may not but by encouragin him to move ard will be awesome... go baby steps on him

Obviously me he's been stuffing himself to overcome some kind of worry or depression. I've beent here so I would really suggest you guys to talk to him in private.

At 3:32 PM, Anonymous Richard said...

I think everyone has said something useful here. He has to want to try. He needs love and attention. It's his life. That said, I'd try and talk to him straight ahead on all counts. That you care about him. That you'd like to help. Offer some reputable resources. Depression is a huge issue I'll bet. Can't deal with the weight until he deals with the depression. Om shanti!

At 6:23 PM, Blogger Pink Chihuahua Princess said...

I'm not sure that I have any advice for you, but I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you. It sounds like you are in a tough spot--so know the chihuahuas and I are behind you.

At 10:10 PM, Anonymous eph2810 said...

Yikes, that is not easy to give advice on a family issue like that. But maybe someone in the family has a good rapport with him and can really sit down and explain to him that he needs to take care of his body.


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